Weve seen a bunch of systems not enjoying how memory-unfriendly and dyslexic unfriendly they are. Its 100% a problem with the terms themselves. They are NOT coined well.
Paragenic is from 'paracosm' which is the word some Immersive Daydreamers use for a daydream world, but the original word itself is not intuitive in the first place so its Awkward. Especially because the venn diagram of other words for created headmates and paragenic headmates is just about a circle.
According to this reddit post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Tulpas/comments/fdwdhd/comment/fjl4mmi/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 parogenic was coined because latin prefix 'I create'. The person who coined it didnt intend for it to get big, and a lot of the tulpamancy community doest even like the term in the first place, so really its only being pushed at this point because of exclusionists not liking tulpamancy in the first place.
As for Pariogenic, its news to us what it could possibly be referencing. Nowhere seems to have a source link for a coining post explaining it that we can find.
Yeah every time we poke our nose in a system space weighted towards people under ~16 we feel like we age 40 years. Glad they are having fun and all but... Oof. Not the best thought out concepts here. People are out there saying fictives are supposed to never be OCs/from your stories?? Wwwwhat?!?! Thats terrible! Glad we havent seen that. Aaaugh thats the worst. Like its one thing to choose not to apply the label if the headmate/system doesnt want to, but its another for people to complain they arent Ever supposed to use the label if they want.
Yeah, every other week we see at least one Very Obviously A Child making an intro/questioning post on reddit or on tumblr or twitter where they start detailing trauma they have and saying 'you arent obligated to share that' never actually fixes anything. Whats worse is the community doesnt tell people much anymore to be cautious if you are a newly discovered system in talking about it with people who have known you a long time if they hold power over you (such as parents), even if you dont remember anything particularly awful.
Straight up saw a post the other week where an obvious young teen who said they learned they were a system less than a month ago and wanted to come out to everyone now they knew and asked how to come out to their parents. Who they self-admitted were abusive. Tried our best to dissuade them, unsure if it worked. Some people legitimately were ignoring the abusive part and just being like 'I used a powerpoint slideshow!' or 'try bringing notes when you talk to them!'. Completely terrible advice that totally misses the red flags and safety discussion in favor of ~positivity~.
Yeah it truly is just adding to their abuse and trauma especially if they are forced to relive it to appease people, especially if they still are living through it. Publicly forcing people to admit horrible things is just sheer cruelty. Even privately being pressured to give personal information and then having to do so is incredibly violating of an experience. Even if its not explicitly Required, it clearly feels expected enough that people will do it unprompted. We suppose its a unfortunate natural conclusion to the culture where you are expected to disclose every oppression you face if you are in any sort of leftist-leaning social media space. People really do forget how actually offputting that is if they havent been up to their eyeballs in it.
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Paragenic is from 'paracosm' which is the word some Immersive Daydreamers use for a daydream world, but the original word itself is not intuitive in the first place so its Awkward. Especially because the venn diagram of other words for created headmates and paragenic headmates is just about a circle.
According to this reddit post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Tulpas/comments/fdwdhd/comment/fjl4mmi/?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 parogenic was coined because latin prefix 'I create'. The person who coined it didnt intend for it to get big, and a lot of the tulpamancy community doest even like the term in the first place, so really its only being pushed at this point because of exclusionists not liking tulpamancy in the first place.
As for Pariogenic, its news to us what it could possibly be referencing. Nowhere seems to have a source link for a coining post explaining it that we can find.
Yeah every time we poke our nose in a system space weighted towards people under ~16 we feel like we age 40 years. Glad they are having fun and all but... Oof. Not the best thought out concepts here.
People are out there saying fictives are supposed to never be OCs/from your stories?? Wwwwhat?!?! Thats terrible! Glad we havent seen that. Aaaugh thats the worst. Like its one thing to choose not to apply the label if the headmate/system doesnt want to, but its another for people to complain they arent Ever supposed to use the label if they want.
Yeah, every other week we see at least one Very Obviously A Child making an intro/questioning post on reddit or on tumblr or twitter where they start detailing trauma they have and saying 'you arent obligated to share that' never actually fixes anything. Whats worse is the community doesnt tell people much anymore to be cautious if you are a newly discovered system in talking about it with people who have known you a long time if they hold power over you (such as parents), even if you dont remember anything particularly awful.
Straight up saw a post the other week where an obvious young teen who said they learned they were a system less than a month ago and wanted to come out to everyone now they knew and asked how to come out to their parents. Who they self-admitted were abusive. Tried our best to dissuade them, unsure if it worked. Some people legitimately were ignoring the abusive part and just being like 'I used a powerpoint slideshow!' or 'try bringing notes when you talk to them!'. Completely terrible advice that totally misses the red flags and safety discussion in favor of ~positivity~.
Yeah it truly is just adding to their abuse and trauma especially if they are forced to relive it to appease people, especially if they still are living through it. Publicly forcing people to admit horrible things is just sheer cruelty. Even privately being pressured to give personal information and then having to do so is incredibly violating of an experience. Even if its not explicitly Required, it clearly feels expected enough that people will do it unprompted.
We suppose its a unfortunate natural conclusion to the culture where you are expected to disclose every oppression you face if you are in any sort of leftist-leaning social media space. People really do forget how actually offputting that is if they havent been up to their eyeballs in it.