that open letter is like the only sensical thing we've read in all of syscourse in the past like six months (i am not being literal but god that's what it FEELS LIKE). covers a LOT of stuff we've privately complained about to partners and friends but basically 10000% agree cosigned etc
(in particular lol'ed at "The community has a huge telephone game problem where people learn of being plural being a thing from a mutual who explains it poorly and they never get pointed to any resource collection besides a term hoard wiki." bc ohhh my god the r/plural subreddit and people recommending pluralpedia to complete newbies trying to figure out if they're even plural and maybe haven't even heard of plurality at all beyind stereotypes of MPD/DID. NO!!!!! pet peeve!!!!!!! pluralpedia has value as an archive of community terms imo but it is also the kind of resource that is. more confusing to questioning folks than anything else. like idk if someone is trying to figure out the grammar of a language they're just starting with, you don't just give them a monolingual dictionary and be like "this will help! i'm sure you'll figure it out :)"
..... you actually help them understand how the language works and give them basic words long before you give them lists of specialised vocab to memorise.... anyway when we see that happening we'll usually quietly drop a link to your "Am I Plural?" page if no one else has, because 1. its good and thank you for making it btw, and 2. it's one of the only "am I plural?" resources we've seen that acknowledges that there's a BUNCH of possibilities for plurality that aren't either "all plurality is dissociative disorders you must fit in the medical framework" or "lol dissociation what's this there's nothing to watch out DID/OSDD systems are only The Bad Sysmeds" (sad but we've seen that.....) and i think that level of nuance is Beneficial, and 3. a guide like this so much more likely to actually help compared to just like. endless lists of terms, most of which are pretty niche?? like i would love more focus on experience and self/ves-determination instead of like. the current emphasis on trying to figure out which box you fit and/or making new boxes and then being Isolated because you cannot have stuff in common with folks who don't share boxes with you..... OTL)
anyway this is a bit rambly and kind of preaching to the choir here but tl;dr love your plural resources thank you for them we're definitely subscribing to the rss feed
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that open letter is like the only sensical thing we've read in all of syscourse in the past like six months (i am not being literal but god that's what it FEELS LIKE). covers a LOT of stuff we've privately complained about to partners and friends but basically 10000% agree cosigned etc
(in particular lol'ed at "The community has a huge telephone game problem where people learn of being plural being a thing from a mutual who explains it poorly and they never get pointed to any resource collection besides a term hoard wiki." bc ohhh my god the r/plural subreddit and people recommending pluralpedia to complete newbies trying to figure out if they're even plural and maybe haven't even heard of plurality at all beyind stereotypes of MPD/DID. NO!!!!! pet peeve!!!!!!! pluralpedia has value as an archive of community terms imo but it is also the kind of resource that is. more confusing to questioning folks than anything else. like idk if someone is trying to figure out the grammar of a language they're just starting with, you don't just give them a monolingual dictionary and be like "this will help! i'm sure you'll figure it out :)" ..... you actually help them understand how the language works and give them basic words long before you give them lists of specialised vocab to memorise.... anyway when we see that happening we'll usually quietly drop a link to your "Am I Plural?" page if no one else has, because 1. its good and thank you for making it btw, and 2. it's one of the only "am I plural?" resources we've seen that acknowledges that there's a BUNCH of possibilities for plurality that aren't either "all plurality is dissociative disorders you must fit in the medical framework" or "lol dissociation what's this there's nothing to watch out DID/OSDD systems are only The Bad Sysmeds" (sad but we've seen that.....) and i think that level of nuance is Beneficial, and 3. a guide like this so much more likely to actually help compared to just like. endless lists of terms, most of which are pretty niche?? like i would love more focus on experience and self/ves-determination instead of like. the current emphasis on trying to figure out which box you fit and/or making new boxes and then being Isolated because you cannot have stuff in common with folks who don't share boxes with you..... OTL)
anyway this is a bit rambly and kind of preaching to the choir here but tl;dr love your plural resources thank you for them we're definitely subscribing to the rss feed