[Chatter] Updates and such

[monsterqueers]

Aaaaaaa this took forever to happen. Life got in the way and such but lots of updates:

Website updates:

• RSS feed has been enabled on the website! Now you can get notifications as we update!
• Document  "Should I Tell My Friends/Doctors/Parents/etc about being Plural?" posted
• Essay An Open Letter To The Rest Of The Inclusive Plural Community posted
• Essay Xeno As In Nonhuman - Gender Essay posted
• Fawn's Werecard posted
• Added a bunch more sites and reorganized the essays and papers pages a bit

General updates:

• Currently playing SMTV, that will be the next thing for the plural media blog its just slow going because Actually Playing it and not watching a cutscene movie and running x_x  Its VERY fun though. Good vibes.
• Still working on a driving license hhhh
• Maybe this time is the trick and will be more active here.

Fandom Updates:

• Uuuuuh nothing much really? Dont remember lol.

Comments

[thesaltinstitute]

that open letter is like the only sensical thing we've read in all of syscourse in the past like six months (i am not being literal but god that's what it FEELS LIKE). covers a LOT of stuff we've privately complained about to partners and friends but basically 10000% agree cosigned etc

(in particular lol'ed at "The community has a huge telephone game problem where people learn of being plural being a thing from a mutual who explains it poorly and they never get pointed to any resource collection besides a term hoard wiki." bc ohhh my god the r/plural subreddit and people recommending pluralpedia to complete newbies trying to figure out if they're even plural and maybe haven't even heard of plurality at all beyind stereotypes of MPD/DID. NO!!!!! pet peeve!!!!!!! pluralpedia has value as an archive of community terms imo but it is also the kind of resource that is. more confusing to questioning folks than anything else. like idk if someone is trying to figure out the grammar of a language they're just starting with, you don't just give them a monolingual dictionary and be like "this will help! i'm sure you'll figure it out :)" ..... you actually help them understand how the language works and give them basic words long before you give them lists of specialised vocab to memorise.... anyway when we see that happening we'll usually quietly drop a link to your "Am I Plural?" page if no one else has, because 1. its good and thank you for making it btw, and 2. it's one of the only "am I plural?" resources we've seen that acknowledges that there's a BUNCH of possibilities for plurality that aren't either "all plurality is dissociative disorders you must fit in the medical framework" or "lol dissociation what's this there's nothing to watch out DID/OSDD systems are only The Bad Sysmeds" (sad but we've seen that.....) and i think that level of nuance is Beneficial, and 3. a guide like this so much more likely to actually help compared to just like. endless lists of terms, most of which are pretty niche?? like i would love more focus on experience and self/ves-determination instead of like. the current emphasis on trying to figure out which box you fit and/or making new boxes and then being Isolated because you cannot have stuff in common with folks who don't share boxes with you..... OTL)

anyway this is a bit rambly and kind of preaching to the choir here but tl;dr love your plural resources thank you for them we're definitely subscribing to the rss feed

[monsterqueers]

Glad it resonated with yall that much!

We have years of frustration pent up in that essay with how some spaces are run and the introduction a lot of people get to plurality being the way it is there.

We are DEEPLY salty about people sending pluralpedia to newbies instead of like morethanone.info or literally any other basic resource. Its for term archival work and is NOT a basic dictionary. Just 100% yeah, you help people understand the basics before you hand them an advanced dictionary.

Also glad you like our 'Am I plural' list! It genuinely got made because we got tired of copypasting the same list of things over and over and over due to no one resoruce to link already existing (...most of our documents are for that reason) when people leave questions places like reddit/tumblr/etc.

And YEAH, its only ever 'dissociative disorder is never the answer!' or 'dissociative disorder is the ONLY answer' on a lot of questioning resources that are actual examples of experiences so it makes it hard.

The focus on experience is something we REALLY think would be more helpful than the term lists. A Lot of people have different ideas of what words mean, so the only way we can communicate is by being *specific* about what we mean. Talking about experience also helps people understand and relate. If different kinds of systems talked more freely about their experiences maybe we would all see that we arent so different after all lol.